The way you do one thing is the way you do everything. My brother told me this a while ago, and the more I attend therapy, the more his words ring true. When issues rise in various aspects of life there is usually one common thread connecting all the problems. For me, it always starts with a lack of boundary setting. The idea of boundaries sounds limiting. No one wants to be told what they can and can’t do, especially as an adult. At the same time, I don’t know one person wh

Life has been poetic for me this year. It’s been full of melodies, structure, and prominent devices like repetition. Repetition in life is just as meaningful as it is in any poem. There are lessons, messages, and patterns on repeat, and I honestly believe it’s God’s way of getting our attention. He’s been trying to get mine over the past year in all three ways. Lessons: At this point I firmly believe we will face an obstacle until we learn how to overcome it. It’s no secret t

I stated last week that my year of 30 has been a year of shedding. I like the sound of that. It’s philosophical and artistic. In reality though, it’s been rough and uncomfortable, yet admittedly necessary and rewarding. Today, I’m inviting you in to the step by step of my shedding process. :Insert deep breath: Welcome... 1. Shedding is an active process. I wouldn’t say my lessons are in chronological order, but this is the first step. Habits and people don’t just fall from ou

Over the weekend I had a poetry performance that went horribly. I performed two poems, but the first one did not engage the crowd. I stared at a room of blank faces that I basically had to prompt to applaud when I was finished. I wanted to sit back down and disappear, but the person who invited me told me to do another poem. She helped me live through it long enough to redeem myself, but BRUTAL was an understatement. As I walked back to my seat, no one said a word. I had to s

When it comes to entrepreneurship, money flow is something I understand, but haven’t yet mastered. That said, I’m turning it over to two women whose money mindset and business growth led to admirable cash flow and sustainable businesses. Meet Sonia: Sonia is CEO of the first African American & woman owned student loan repayment company in the country. Her business, the Student Loan Doctor LLC, assists clients nationwide with student loan repayment issues on anything from affo

Last week I traveled to Memphis for my family reunion. I flew down with my parents who picked me up on their way to the airport. Even though we made plans to leave around 10 a.m., I was too tired to pack the night before. Unbeknownst to me at the time, my routine that morning laid the blueprint for getting everything done when you have a "busy" life. 1. Start with you first. The morning of the flight I knew I needed to pack, but I was determined to workout first. I have a per